enjoy your inner freedomHannelore did
not feel truly loved as a child. Her father took little time for her, and her mother was also full with household chores and a job.
So she was left on her own quite early and looked for closeness and attention in her circle of friends and later in different relationships.
But here, too, she was disappointed. The relationships broke up after a few years and she was left disappointed.
She herself did not know exactly what she was looking for and was grateful when one day a friend recommended a podcast to her.
Recognizing the spiritual path as a path to herselfSo
she approached the topic of personal development more and more and discovered new sides of herself again and again
.
Her thoughts became more positive and so did her behavior. Completely new doors opened and she felt for the first time again something like joy of life and courage to make new decisions.
When our inner self changes, something changes on the outside – negatively as well as positively.
When we develop our (self-)awareness, truths often break open that we have buried for years.
This can be a temporarily painful process. It is important to accept this process in order to be able to let it go.
Because we often project unprocessed hurts onto other people and are surprised that we are faced with the same tasks over and over again.
The
path to oneself is a path of experiencesCourageous
is the one
who goes on despite doubts. Out of the “feel-good radius” into your further development zone. Because we are always confronted with certain tasks anyway. So why not choose them consciously – out of your own decision?!
But where do you start and where exactly do you want to go?
Our path is as individual as we are.
Some things we have already intuitively started, worked on, or let go of.
Therefore, it may be that you can “skip” a step in the following 7 steps because you have already changed something for yourself.
Nevertheless, I want to start here with the foundation, because without the right “breeding ground”, no tender little plant will grow.
Step 1: The subconsciousAll
our experiences, memories and beliefs are anchored
here
.
Everything “flows” unfiltered into our subconscious and if we don’t “dig” and sort it out from time to time, we will remain stuck in the old behavior patterns.
They may have served us once, but today – often 20 years later – we are a different person in different situations.
One could also say in a different reality. Nevertheless, we always bring out the old stories to justify this or that.
More concrete?
So I don’t get completely involved with a new person anymore, because once 10 years ago hurt me a lot.
Or:
I always have the feeling of not being recognized, or having to prove myself, because in my childhood my parents gave me the feeling of not being wanted
.
And so you drag your “backpack” called subconscious from stage of life to stage of life and you face the same challenges over and over again.
“Unconscious: Du know this, but you do not know that you know it”.
(A.Aurelius)
Step 2: Consciousness
Little by little, everything we look at spills up. This can be painful and exhausting at times.
After all, for years we have explained everything to ourselves in the way that we can best cope with it.
Now, however, in some places the behavioral patterns break open and with that we have to (may) be honest with ourselves.
But a new consciousness also creates new paths and opens up possibilities we used to run away from.
“Where the awareness fades that every human being is our business, culture and ethics falter. The progression to developed inhumanity is then only a question of time.”
(A.Schweitzer)
Step 3: The body consciousness
Everything is connected – especially body, mind and heart.
Our thoughts trigger feelings and the feelings manifest themselves in our body. The body in turn sends the corresponding signals to the brain and from there the brain again controls thoughts and sends messenger substances to the body.
If we stay on our well-worn paths, we always think the same, trigger the same feelings and our body reacts accordingly.
If we stay caught in the negative loop, pain, or inflammatory processes can manifest in the body in the process.
Therefore, the starting point for “a new self” is often our own body. Him I can move the easiest and thus signal to him: “Hey, I’m fine!”
Because the body sends messenger substances to the brain when we feel good, which then give us a good feeling.
Now the trick is to call on that feeling regularly to get out of the negative cycle – as often as possible.
“It is unbelievable how much power the soul is able to lend to the body”
(W. von Humboldt)
Here you can find even more inspiration about how body and mind are interrelated
Step 4: (Self)Communication
Language has the most power over us and others. The way we speak is how we act and feel.
Once spoken, we cannot take back words.
The basis is communication with ourselves. If I speak to myself in an impatient and constantly judgmental manner, how do I think I communicate on the outside?
Of course, the same way: I am suspicious, take many things personally, constantly evaluate and am impatient.
Therefore, pay attention to your words, because they become actions!
“Loneliness does not come from not having people around you, but from not being able to tell them the things that seem important to you.”
(C.G.Jung)
Step 5: Self-esteem
What goes along with language is, of course, our self-worth and self-image.
If I don’t have a high opinion of myself, don’t think I’m really good at anything, then that does something to our inner being.
Anger, sadness, and powerlessness take over.
We constantly look outside for validation and recognition and are disappointed when we don’t get it.
“The most important thing in life you can only give yourself Give: Your self-worth.”
(Gudrun Kropp)
6.Step: MotivationOne
of
the most common reasons why we keep postponing projects, or abandon them altogether: There is a lack of intrinsic motivation.
If I don’t always find a reason for myself to want to achieve something specific, then I give up at the slightest doubt.
To motivate oneself again and again, to set new goals and to stick to them brings success!
Ways change by walking, not by standing still.
“Success is the ability to go from one failure to another without losing your enthusiasm”
(W.Churchill)
How to define goals correctly and stick to them can be found in the article “How to define your goals correctly “
7. Step: Letting goRecognize
when something is finished or no longer valuable for your own path
.
We are in constant evolution, whether we like it or not. Therefore, circumstances change and we can decide how to deal with them.
To hold on, or to let go. You could also say, say goodbye to people or things that burden you. This also means letting go of circumstances that you can’t change, and devoting your energy to the things you can change.
“When I walked out of the cell through the door toward freedom, I knew I had to leave my bitterness and hatred behind or I would remain a prisoner all my life.”
(N.Mandela)
Conclusion:
If you have the feeling that you are not living your own life – according to your values and ideas
,
if there is always an inner dissatisfaction
,
then get clarity about what is really important to you in life by creating a plan that includes the above steps
.
Take the first small step and I promise you, the gates will open!
“He who wants to move the world should first move himself.”
(Socrates)
Be balanced!
Yours, Cornelia
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